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MARINE 2001-2009 — GI Bill exhausted, then VR&E (Chapter 31)

vet_taylor  · Marines  · 8 yrs served  · May 8, 2026

Used my Post-9/11 GI Bill to finish a bachelor's in business administration at a state university. Graduated. Got a job. Hated the job. Decided I wanted to go to nursing school instead. GI Bill was exhausted. I qualified for Veteran Readiness and Employment (VR&E, Chapter 31) because of my service…

ARMY 2004-2012 — VA disability appeal, the C&P exam grind

Anonymous  · Army  · 8 yrs served  · Apr 30, 2026

Filed an initial VA claim in 2014 for back, knees, tinnitus, and PTSD. Rated at 30%. Most of the rating was for tinnitus and a single knee. The back and the PTSD were both deferred and ultimately denied. I appealed. The first appeal was a Higher-Level Review. Denied. The second appeal went to the …

CAREGIVER TO A TBI VET — Hidden Heroes and the long slow work of staying

Anonymous  · Army (caregiver)  · Apr 21, 2026

My husband was an Army turret gunner in Iraq. IED in 2008. Severe TBI. He was 24. I was 22. We had been married for nine months. He came home seven months later from Walter Reed. He could walk. He could talk in short sentences. He could not hold a job. He could not always remember what year it was…

SISTER OF AN ARMY VET — Snowball Express, the year after he took his own life

Anonymous  · Army (sister)  · Apr 21, 2026

My brother took his own life in 2022. He had been Army, two deployments to Iraq, separated in 2014, never enrolled with the VA. He left a wife and two kids. The kids were eight and five. The year after he died was the worst year of any of our lives. My sister-in-law went catatonic for three months…

OEF SPOUSE, 14 YEARS MARRIED — What deployment did to me, and what coming home did

Anonymous  · Army (spouse)  · Apr 19, 2026

We met in 2010. He was Army, just back from his first deployment. We got married eight months later. He deployed again in 2012, then 2014, then 2016. By 2018 he had been gone for three of our seven married years. The deployments were hard but they had a shape. You knew the departure date. You knew…

NAVY 1992-2012 — AA, the VA SUD clinic, and the cost of finally admitting it

Anonymous  · Navy  · 20 yrs served  · Apr 16, 2026

Twenty years in. Drank the whole time. Career stayed intact until about year fifteen, when I had a DUI scrubbed off my record because a senior chief liked me. Career stayed intact after that too. I retired clean on paper and started drinking harder. Three years post-retirement my wife gave me a ch…

ARMY RANGER, 2005-2015 — MDMA-assisted therapy in the MAPS Phase 3 trial

Anonymous  · Army  · 10 yrs served  · Apr 15, 2026

Six combat deployments. Three Joint Task Force rotations. Diagnosed with severe PTSD in 2017, three different evidence-based therapies (Prolonged Exposure, Cognitive Processing Therapy, EMDR) over four years, all with partial but not durable response. I entered the MAPS-sponsored Phase 3 trial of …

ARMY MP, 2010-2018 — Equine therapy in Texas, from a skeptic

Anonymous  · Army  · 8 yrs served  · Apr 12, 2026

Eight years as a military police officer. Two deployments. The second one ended badly enough that I left the Army on a medical separation. I had cycled through standard talk therapy and medication for three years with limited progress when somebody at the local VFW post mentioned a free equine ther…

ARMY 2007-2014 — Vet Center group therapy, after I had given up on the VA

Anonymous  · Army  · 7 yrs served  · Apr 11, 2026

I had been to two VA Medical Centers and three community providers between 2014 and 2021 and concluded that mental health care was not going to work for me. The bureaucracy at the VAMCs and the lack of military fluency at the community providers had each been frustrating in different ways. A buddy…

MARINE 2005-2013 — Year one with a K9s For Warriors service dog

Anonymous  · Marines  · 8 yrs served  · Apr 11, 2026

Two tours, medical separation in 2013 for PTSD and a knee that had had four surgeries. Applied to K9s For Warriors in 2019, got matched in 2021. Three-week residential training in Florida. Came home with a Labrador named Otis. Year one with a service dog is harder than the brochure makes it look. …

NAVY 1996-2018 — The VA CBT-I program I should have done a decade earlier

vet_devon  · Navy  · 22 yrs served  · Apr 11, 2026

Twenty-two years in the Navy, Surface Warfare. The job runs on watch rotations — six on, six off, eighteen on for surge — and by the time I retired I had not slept a normal night in fifteen years. I assumed it was permanent. VA primary care prescribed me ambien. It worked for about three months, t…

ARMY 2006-2016 — Three weeks at Home Base Program, Mass General

Anonymous  · Army  · 10 yrs served  · Apr 10, 2026

Three tours, infantry, ETSed as a staff sergeant in 2016. Took me until 2022 to get into intensive treatment. I had been doing weekly therapy through the VA for four years and was treading water. My therapist suggested an IOP — intensive outpatient program. She referred me to Home Base at Mass Gene…

MARINE 2003-2011 — Cohen Veterans Network, first telehealth session

Anonymous  · Marines  · 8 yrs served  · Apr 9, 2026

Two tours in Iraq, separated as a sergeant in 2011, never enrolled with the VA because I had heard the wait times were brutal and I could function. Functioning meant working a sales job, drinking every weekend, getting divorced, and not sleeping. My second wife found Cohen Veterans Network on a Su…

ARMY RESERVE, 2008-2026 — The long road through USAJOBS

Anonymous  · Army Reserve  · 18 yrs served  · Apr 6, 2026

Eighteen years in the Army Reserve. Civilian career in software. Three years ago I decided to apply for federal civilian jobs to use my veteran preference and to consolidate my federal service for retirement. USAJOBS is a different operating system. You cannot just upload a resume. You have to wri…

NAVY HM, 2001-2026 — The 9/11 enlistee, 25 years on

vet_taylor  · Navy  · 25 yrs served  · Mar 26, 2026

I enlisted in October 2001. I was 18. I had watched the towers fall on a TV in my high school cafeteria and I had signed papers by the end of the month. Twenty-five years later, I am retiring. Two tours in Iraq with Marine units. One in Afghanistan. Eleven years of shore tours in between, mostly a…

ARMY JAG, 2005-2017 — Leaving JAG for private practice and the credibility tax

Anonymous  · Army  · 12 yrs served  · Mar 25, 2026

Twelve years as a JAG officer. Trial counsel, defense counsel, operational law, two deployments providing legal support to ground commanders. Got out as a major to do family law in a small firm in Texas. First three months in private practice were a credibility tax I had not been prepared for. Cli…

ARMY 68W, 2008-2016 — From combat medic to rural EMS in West Virginia

vet_jordan  · Army  · 8 yrs served  · Mar 20, 2026

Two tours in Afghanistan as a medic with an infantry battalion. Got out in 2016 wanting to do trauma work in a small town. Moved home to West Virginia and tried to figure out how to convert what I knew into a state EMS license. The conversion is harder than people think. The military trains you to…